The Struggle Is Real

Do you remember seeing those pictures from moms about their kids crying over silly things? The "Reasons My Child cried Today" ones? I do. I remember laughing at them and thinking, oh man so glad MJ isn't like that. What an extremely well behaved Toddler I have.

He turns 3 next Month. I guess when you turn 3, or are about to, all rules go out the window. Everything changes. This isn't me being overly dramatic its true. I know you moms of 3 year olds are totally agreeing right now. Maybe throwing out an "Amen Sister".

I have one of those Toddlers. The ones that are the stars of those photos. In fact MJ could probably have his own website dedicated to "Reasons I cried Today". Emotions are just insane when you hit 3. I have read blog post and book on how to raise a little boy. How to let him know that having emotions is ok but teaching him how to handle them. Books cant prepare you for 3. Put down the books on how to raise a 3 year old. What you should be reading are those books that let you know that you are not alone.... that most 3 year olds are insane and all the moms are dealing with the exact same thing even if they look perfect on the outside. That will make you feel better about yourself. Not how to raise your child to be perfect, but how to embrace the imperfections of your own life as a mom.

Easier said then done I know. Because I struggle with it DAILY. I would love for my life and children to be perfect. But then I wake up from that dream and hear MJ dumping out a bin of about 100 trucks, throwing a fit because its Monday ( come on don't we all thought?), and Kenley crying because she doesnt want to do Tummy Time.

Ok back to what this post is really about.

Reasons MJ has cried this week:

Because its not Night time
Because the bed in his room is not his
Because mommy and daddys bed is not theirs
Because he wants to go to lunch and not eat at home
Because he wants to eat at home not out ( after we said ok we will eat out)
Because he doesn't like Books anymore ( until Tuesday when its story time at the library
Because he doesn't like PB and J when that is the only thing he actually eats
Because he doesn't want Kenley to get any older
Because its not currently snowing so he wants to wear his rain boots not snow boots even thought the ground is covered in snow...but the snow is not actually falling therefor he doesn't need snow boots
Because he wants his Birthday Party Invites to be just the truck not the truck with the picture of "Matthew" In them
Because he wants to do his own dishes
Because putting the dog bowls away is not his chore its mommies, his chore is cleaning the whole house ( by all means child please do)





 

Oh That Poor Mom, Thank Goodness That's Not Me!

I just have to laugh when I think about what I'm about to write..well maybe not laugh I think crying would be the better option. ..yep cry. When Mj was less then a year old I ran into an old friend at the BX (grocery store on a military base for my non military followers). She had a son who was about 2 or 3 at the time,  and was pregnant with her second. She told me that her son was so well behaved so they decided to try for another. She got pregnant and about half way through her son started falling into the terrible 2s sterotype. Sounds horrible right? Thinking it is the perfect time to have another because your absolutely amazingly well behaved toddler was just awesome so of course you should have another who will be just as awesome... then it happens and that awesome little boy of yours starts turning out to be not so well behaved and becoming, well a toddler boy. I felt bad for her . How horrible that seemed and I was so luck to have such a well behaved little man and decided not to have another.

A year passes and I have this awesome, well behaved almost two year old. How could we not try for another? So We did. And got pregnant and months passed and then 2 months prior to our newest addition joining us, BAM. ..my well behaved son turned into a 2.5 year old boy. A boy who is rough,  and tough,  and has an attitude,  and is always wanting to run and jump and scream and play play play and did I mention not eat his food or listen to us one tiny bit?  I bet this happened because I felt sorry for my friend and blessed  that I wasn't in my old friends shoes. That's probably exactly it.

So here we are with a rough and tough, not at all  well behaved as we thought,  almost 3 year old boy and an almost 4 month old total DIVA of a daughter. Sound fantastic right? RIGHT!

This week, no this month has been one for the books. Really it has. Mj, although a fantastic little man and so much fun to watch grow and shape into his own, is too smart for his own good...or my good...or anyone else's. He knows how to push our buttons, to argue and then negotiate better then a Harvard Law Student 2 weeks away from graduation, and to destroy every inch of the house in 5 minutes. My hair is falling out. Oh Wait That's From Having A baby...Or Is it? I have used the words "go to time out", "Santa is taking your gifts back", "your not getting a Monster Truck birthday party ", and "I'm throwing your toys away" more times then I can count this past month.  I'm threatening my son with things I swore I never would when I became a parent.  I now understand why our parents did it...they had to. We never listened. I have bought out the closest store when it comes to wine and chocolate and I look forward to bed time every single day.

I think the point of this post is that when another mom shares her lows with you, think that you are lucky that isn't you. Because most likely it will be in a few months or maybe a year.  Now she is probably laughing at me but she should be gearing up for the next big obstacle she will have to overcome, as a mom, next week. It's all a vicious cycle. A very very vicious one.

Im Back... I Feel Like This Has Been A Title Before

Holy cow has it really been 7 months since I last post?? Well that's what happens when..well , when life happens. I got pregnant with our second child and I had no energy to do anything but get my son fed and dressed ( sometimes) and make sure the house looked clean ( sort of). Then she came!! Miss Kenley Harper came into our lives September 10 at 11:59 PM just seconds before 9/11. Kind of crazy to think about. So getting use to the new life of being a mommy of TWO has kept me pretty busy. Not to mention my new Event Planning business!! Yay go me!

 Anyways Im here and Im getting use to this new life and now actually find time on my hands for me! That is if I skip out on a shower, jkjk I shower ( most days). Little Man is back in school, has been for a few months ( funny how I decide to go back to blogging the week he has off for winter break) and Little Miss is just under FOUR months old and isn't as much of a handful as she use to be and my house is clean, for the most part, so here I am. Blogging...again... for now...


On the other hand I just sat and actually thought about my life and how its a crazy time to start up again. I have more on my hands then I ever have before. I just had a baby, MJ has hit his terrible 3s? Does that exist because this usually well behaved boy of mine is out of control most days, I took on head Key Spouses and started a squadron spouses group from scratch for Ms squadron, as well as making a monthly newsletter ( that's pretty awesome if I do say so myself), have my first BIG wedding that I am planning that is extremely time consuming, am helping with MOPS ( a tad), and MJs annual school fundraiser is just a few months away that I plan with a  Dear friend and fellow parent. So I start blogging now? That seems like a really silly thing to do. BUT Im going to. What's one more thing to add to my list, right? But I have so much going on that I can imagine you will just get a kick out of my daily struggles  (seriously like daily).

Or you will be able to relate and if that's the case, I feel really sorry for you. I also think you need to grab a bottle of wine and head to my house so we can cry together for an hour or so, or an entire day...yep that sounds about right.

Well Welcome back!

 

Thankful Monday

Thankful Monday

 

 

That we now have a second car seat so M can take MJ to school some days and I can not get out of my Pjs till after 11 hehe

 

 

 

For this little Miracle growing inside of me

 

 

For MJ. Although he is in a phase right now, he is still so much fun to be around. I am loving watching him grow

 

 

 

For our parents who spoil us and our children.

 

 

For a husband who gives into my cravings and lets us go out to eat a little too much.

Bump Date

I have been really bad about blogging lately! I have been so busy with MJs school Fundraiser. its this Saturday so hopefully after that everything will calm down!



20 weeks with Baby Girl!

Total weight gain/loss: I think 12 pounds ( according to my scale) but the docs scale always says different. We will see at my apt this week!

Maternity clothes: Still my maternity jeans. No shirts though

Stretch marks? No and lets pray it stays that way

Sleep: This past few days or week sleep has not been fun. I just cant get comfy

Best moment this week: Kicks!! M finally felt them this past week! So much fun

 

Movement: Yes! the past few weeks I have been feeling flutters that moved to actual kicks but M got to feel them this past week which is always exciting!

 

 

Food cravings: Buffalo Wild wings still

Gender: Little girl. Hope it stays a girl when we go in to our 20 week anatomy scan this week

 

Symptoms: Feet hurt by the end of the day. Im having BH already which are extremely uncomfortable. I didn't get them with Mj

Labor Signs: Just BH

Belly Button in or out? In but its coming out already! Especially if I eat a lot

Wedding rings on or off? On

What I miss: my flat stomach and a good night sleep

What I am looking forward to: My Anatomy scan this week

Weekly Wisdom: Drink lots of water and don't stress

Ipsy Glam Bag Review: April

I am so excited my Ipsy Glam bag came in the mail today! It was the perfect day to get it. Im loving everything already!

Rainbow Honey Cosmetics' The Summer of 199X Polish in Lumine Hall

So excited to be trying this! I love every polish there is out there. My favorite thing to get in my Ipsy bags is Nail Polish! This is actually my first sample size 9 unless they compact sells them this small, I sure hope not) from ipsy when it comes to Polish. Lumine Hall is actually a really pretty color! Of course it has sparkles so its gonna be hard to take off.


Price: $10.00



Urban Decay 24/7 Velvet Glide-on Eye Pencil in Black Velvet

Im in love!! This eye linr goes on soooo smooth! It also is staying on really really good!! I haven't found an eye liner that can make it through the end of my days! I think I may have found a new liner. Bottom liner that is!

Price: $20.00



Demeter Roll on Perfume Oil in Jasmine

Im usually picky about the perfumes I wear but so far Ipsy has done a good job! This one is a little strong for an every day use for me but I can for sure use a small dab before a night out!

Price: .29 oz roll on $10.00


Dr. Bandit Microdermabrasion Skin Exfoliant sample

Im pretty excited to try this but I wont until after the baby is born!

Price: $78.00 for a full size which is 2oz


Mary Kay's At Play Jelly Lip Gloss in Teddy Bare

I was pretty excited for this. I really like Mary Kay when I do actually order it. I mean come on its the stuff we grew up with, you know that your mom wore! So I have always been a fan. Also I was pretty excited I was finally getting another lip gloss instead of a lipstick. The color is ok. It goes on really nude and once actually on and spread out its almost clear. Shiny which I love but not too much of a color! What I love: That its a gloss, it doesn't have a weird texture, and it doesn't smell!! yay!


Price: $10.00



This is one of my favorite bags so far. Not the bag itself but the products for sure!!





 

Bump Date

18 weeks with Baby Girl!

Total weight gain/loss: Still Not sure they didn't weight me last apt and my next isn't until may 1st. But I feel like a cow!

Maternity clothes: Yup. I brought out the jeans because I was over wearing leggings daily. I really missed jeans. Now to fine some cute maternity skinny jeans because I love skinny jeans!

Stretch marks? No and lets pray it stays that way

Sleep: Other then waking up to pee too often its not bad.

Best moment this week: Starting to feel more flutters and kicks

Movement: Yes. I cant wait until its constant and M can feel it

 

 

Food cravings: Buffalo Wild wings...bad... and salty foods.

Gender: Little girl. Hope it stays a girl when we go in to our 20 week anatomy scan May 1st

Symptoms: My feet are starting to hurt when im on them for a long time. this summer should be fun.

Labor Signs: None.

Belly Button in or out? In but its coming out already!

Wedding rings on or off? On

What I miss: my flat stomach

What I am looking forward to: feeling more kicks

Weekly Wisdom: Stay away from salty food lol